The Workaday Warrior & Warrioress

 

 

 

 

You’ve heard of Weekend Warrior? Well, I’m interested in what it takes to be a Workaday Warrior.

Generally, Weekend Warrior means a person who gets into their passion, hobby, labour of love only on weekends. And, yes, some passions need a longer space to really get into. Nobody’s painting their masterpiece while entering data at the office.

Workaday means ordinary, routine, familiar; as well as diligent, disciplined, skillful.

So the Workaday Warrior may not be as visible or obvious or flamboyant as the Weekend Warrior. But the Workaday Warrior is always involved, every day, at some level, in some subtle, primal and conscious way, with their deep driving desire.

The way of the Workaday Warrior is often internal. It’s about attention and intention. It’s about inner actions, a fierce fidelity to a raison d’être. It’s about devotion to a deep driving desire, the thing of rare purpose that feeds, fires, and inspires your life.

If your passion is an activity, you may not be able to do the outer action of your passion every day: rock climbing, pot throwing, home renovations, antique rescue, abused dog rescue, yard sailing, paddling. But whatever the deep driving desire, the Workaday Warrior is almost always at it, imagining, dreaming, intending, planning.

Often the deep desire of the moment is intensely internal: the slog to rise from despair, the struggle to nurture hope, the inner job of soul recovery.

If you’re stuck in or moving through a big blow in life—an addiction, an illness, a grievous loss—your Workaday Warrior may be doing the sword dance of soul retrieval in very dark depths. Outer eyes may not see into your struggle.

In the ordeal of a lifetime, in the struggle for your sanity, in the underworld journey of self-transformation, you will face, sooner or later, the Workaday Worrier or the Workaday Woebegoner, the loathly lords and ladies of desperation and doubt. We could call these panic and despair, fretting and ruing, anxiety and depression.

Whatever you call these weights of worry and woe, they are the worthy opponents of the Workaday Warrior. And there are more. Procrastination. Pigheadedness. Avoidance. Whatever. Their modus operandi is to take down the one who’s shaping a whole new path in life through all those old cramps of conditioning.

What we focus on grows. Positive or negative, what we give story to, we give life to. A fervent focus on the more desirable life, with fierce heart and clear head, tends to grow fruit. Life grows opportunity like an oak tree grows acorns—out of its own skin and in mighty supply. A focus on the deep driving desire grows inner intention into outer actions that reap the fruits of opportunity and further the inspired life.

The Workaday Warrior clears distractions, clarifies thought, identifies values, deepens feeling, and takes belief to an all new level of joyful engagement with his deep driving desire. The Workaday Warrioress knows that a frequent fervent focus on her deep driving desire is the stuff of magic.

 

 

Massive Manifesting Mojo: Training The Ungoverned Mind


The Buddha once said that the most dangerous thing is the ungoverned mind.

The ungoverned mind is like an unskilled archer. Thoughts are its arrows.

With an unskilled archer, you never know where an arrow might go. Unfocussed aim, wobbly balance, distracted attention can send arrows willynilly in kneejerk directions.

With the ungoverned, undisciplined mind, you never know where thoughts might go nor what intention might be propelling them. The ungoverned mind can’t hold an aim. It can’t hold a thought. It can’t focus and hold its course. It’s a feral thing. It can’t assist in bringing forth the crazy sexy greatness you may yearn for.

If you keep doing what you’ve always done, you’ll keep getting what you’ve always got. If you want to get closer to the bull’s eye, you’ve got to learn better aim and you’ve got to master the nuances of propulsion. If thoughts are like arrows, they need a bow to propel them and an aim to guide them so they land where directed.

In this archery analogy, the bow is feeling and the aim is the arrow; or the bow is intention, coming from the heart, and the aim is attention, coming from the head. Without bow and aim, arrows are useless. Without intention and attention, thoughts are random, indecisive, lopsided, and lacking a propulsion agent. They’re not energetically coherent.

COHERENCE

Coherence means things that hang together perfectly and make sense.

In physics, coherent waves are described as two or more waves whose troughs and crests meet and align perfectly, synchronizing trough to trough, crest to crest; and increasing the overall amplitude.

The HeartMath Institute defines coherence as a measure in the heart’s rhythms that reflects harmony and synchrony among body systems. Coherent rhythms between heart and brain are a measure of feeling good or feeling bad, and these coherent rhythms are guided by the heart.

Coherence comes through feeling and intention on the one hand and mental focus or attention on the other.

Quieting the mind is key to slowing racing thoughts, focussing distracted attention, brightening gloomy thoughts; and bringing coherent flow to thinking and feeling, to attention and intention. But we don’t work with the brain initially to build coherence. Quieting the mind begins with softening the breath and soothing the heart.

MEDITATION

Meditation practices of all kinds with their focus on breath and one point attention encourage coherence between heart and brain. Meditation quiets, clears, cleanses the bodyheartmind totality. A consistent meditation practice of soft breath, open heart, attentive head trains both our deep driving desire’s propulsion system, feeling; and our desire’s steering system, thinking, to focus on the desired outcome.

Dropping good intention into quiet mind is key to loosening old memory habits that appear as all those distracting or dismantling thoughts. Consistent practice of good intention in quiet mind refashions the neural grooves on which memory habits habitually travel, thereby cultivating health and wellbeing and assisting the fruition of your deep driving desire.

Good feeling supports good thinking. Good thinking guides good intention. A master archer of massive manifesting mojo brings coherence to heart and head. The governed mind is heart and head in sweet and savvy affinity. When feeling and thinking align, when attention and intention align, all your crazy sexy super powers come into coherence.

So breathe. Focus on one good thought. Hold the feeling. Take aim. You’re about to hit your bull’s-eye.

WILL: Whip Master Or Wish Magnet?

Have you ever considered will as a crazy sexy super power?

Or do you see will as a whip master, like a military mandate in the mind—coercive, ironshod, pushy, punitive—shackling your good and healthy faculty of creativity or desire for wellbeing to a shaming or blaming directive?

Our culture emphasizes will as a faculty of force we use upon ourselves to get ourselves going. And so many of us know where an ironshod will can lead: to blame and shame on self or others, a sense of futility when force fails, a sense of infidelity to a commitment or vow.

Modern studies on will and will power[i] are discovering that force, humiliation, stress, and overload deplete will power. Force and humiliation weaken the focussing part of the brain.

In fact, modern studies on will power are finding an exquisite alignment with ancient perceptions of will in the Sacred Psychologies, as my teacher Paddy called the old paths at the core of the world’s great spiritual traditions.

ETYMOLOGICAL MAGIC

There’s a hidden elegance to will; and the secret to unlocking it is buried in the etymological history of our word will and its roots in volition.

While neuroscientists twitter and tingle at brain discoveries and connections, linguascientists tweet and trip all over the joys of etymologies. And poets revel in both.

We all know that volition has to do with will or the power of choice. But way back when, when words were spelled and used differently, our English words will and volition had a lot more to do with the art of wishing, and with feelings of hope and well-being.

Volition comes from the Old English, willan, wyllan, meaning to wish and to desire. This Old English word descends through a long line of connected words, like the Old Norse, vilja, and the Gothic, waljan, meaning to choose; the Latin volo, velle, meaning to wish, to desire; the Sanskrit vrnoti varyah, varanam, to choose; Old Slavonic veljo, veleti, to command; from the Greek elpis, to hope; and from the PIE language root, wel/wol meaning to be pleasing.

In the old days and old ways, then, wishing was considered an act of a disciplined mind that can command its direction of focus; and wishing was considered the act of a caring heart that aligns itself in a serene and joyful manner with the most desired and keeps it there through loving attention.

MODERN SCIENCE & ANCIENT WISDOM

Modern neuroscience is also discovering this connection between the focussed brain and the loving heart.[ii]

Here we see neurobiology and etymology in agreement. Will as a pleasing, hopeful wishing toward the future and as the choice power of mental focus leads to wellbeing.

This thing we call will is actually a desirable, pleasing, and healthy faculty of being human.

In seeking the root of the matter, the definition of will leads to a perception of will that profoundly challenges the military macho of a coercive, domineering force. And so do new modern studies on will power.

Your willing power is more akin to a focussed and pleasurable act of wishing for that which is most pleasing to the soul, to the mind, to the body, to the heart; and to the faculty of focus which keeps the attention on the chosen path, desire, or wish.

We’ve gone from the idea of an iron will, that is, from forcing a path of action; to an idea of something intensely desired and pleasing, that is: to choosing, allowing, and enjoying a path of action.

WILL & DESTINY

Will as desire, wish, pleasantness, choice, and command is also a primary key to destiny.

The Brihadaranyaka Upanishad says: As your desire is, so is your will. As your will is, so is your deed. As your deed is, so is your destiny.

An insuperable will surrenders ego and force to desire, focus, vision, action; and enhances wellbeing. The Great Will of our destiny is never forced; it is only allowed.

When you put all this together, you get a crazy sexy super power of insuperable ability.

WILL STRENGTHENING ACTIONS

~meditation, governing attention

~balanced diet

~limited screen time

~pleasant time in Nature, less time in office/factory

~frequent mental focus breaks

~enough sleep!!!

~joy actions

[i] -Baumeister, Ray and John Tierney (2011). Willpower. USA: The Penguin Press.

-See The American Psychological Society, http://www.apa.org/helpcenter/willpower.aspx

– McGonigal, Kelly (2012). The Willpower Instinct. The Penguin Group: New York & Toronto.

[ii] Ibid.

A Karmic Kiss or Karmic Carom?

Holding on to revenge is a karmic slap in the face—our own face.

Replacing revenge with reverence is a karmic kiss on the cheek.

Revenge doesn’t have to be a big intention or even a conscious intention, nor a full out moral or ideological war on anyone or anything.

Our little daily dismays, pet peeves, closet inadequacies, secret shames are breeding grounds for pocket revenge—that little nag of narrow mindedness or small heartedness that needs to feel bigger, so it reduces someone or something else.

Our pocket revenge tactics are often unconscious and habitual actions: sarcasm, passive-aggressiveness, cold shoulder, interrupting. Nothing major.

But the karmic carom niggles its way back into our own lives, someday, some way through The Universal Law of Returns.

An antidote to revenge is reverence.

A wise reverent rapport with ourselves leads to more conscious awareness and more intentional action. And that always liberates kindness into our living flow.

A karmic slap in the face or a karmic kiss on the cheek comes to us or through us in many forms. We have a choice which cheek to turn, so to speak. We have a powerful influence now on the immediate and future outcome of actions.

We could choose reverence.

Times of dire reverence like ours now, where big and little acts of revenge and rapacity are devouring beauty everywhere, call for a karmic kiss of deepest respect from all our intentions and actions. That kiss is the karmic catalyst for more liberating kindness in the world.

 

Will Serves Balance, Balance Is Power

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Will serves balance. Balance is power.

Any significant change in the good direction needs the support of your will. Does that sound scary? How many times have you said you have no willpower? How often do you hear others bemoan their lack of that big ingredient in the optimal change recipes: willpower? Well, let me tell you: you have all the will power you need. You just have to engage it and exercise it. And ahhh ha. There’s the rub, right?

What I mean by will or will power is not the common notion of a gruelling grit that hunkers down, muscles up, locks the jaw, girds the loins, secures the perimeters, and sets to with a stiff upper lip.

I don’t mean lashing yourself to the mast of masochism to quit smoking, do the housework, do the homework, do the yardwork, scoop the poop, get up, get fit, get off X-Box, get off Facebook, get off Netflix, get off binge watching, get off binge eating, get off oxy, get off meth, get off drunk fighting, get off mean texting, get off complaining, even though these actions are beneficial and involve self-control and self-discipline.

Will power isn’t the act of yanking yourself to do any or all of the things that are good for you that you’d rather not be doing but which you feel compelled to do by some outward force like The Laws Of Society. And will power isn’t the act of fighting the inward impression left by The Laws, the impressions which have become The Long Learned Laws Of Self-Limiting Mind—those locked-in subconscious belief paradigms that stake us to compulsive repetitions of self loathing or self effacement or self aggrandizement, mystifying in their autonomy and stupefying in their self-sabotaging economy.

I don’t mean a whip master will, like a military mandate in the mind, the coercive, the ironshod, the pushy, the punitive; nor the shackling of any good and healthy faculty of creativity or wellbeing to a shaming or blaming or gaming directive. I don’t mean force. In fact, studies are discovering that willpower decreases as force increases. And force only consolidates the The Long Learned Laws Of Self-Limiting Mind.

By will power I mean an ability to direct the attention where you want it to go, to notice when it wanders, and to bring the attention back to your focus of choice.

By willing your attention to go where you want it to go and in willing your attention to return to your chosen focus when you notice your attention has wandered, you’re learning the illimitable skill of awareness, you’re strengthening your innate faculty of choice, you’re honing perception, you’re fine tuning equanimity, you’re giving yourself the golden scales of right balance. You’re exercising your Amazing Super Power of Will. Will is one of the significant skills in effecting positive transformation. Will grows strong through exercising it, through creating a willingness to exercise it, and through sane and sensible practices of reflection and restoration, attention and intention, motivation and inspiration, that support you in your desired direction toward destiny.

At LivingFlow Integrative Essentials, I use and teach therapeutic interventions, partnered with a cognitive behavioural and appreciative enquiry approach of what’s holding you back, that support positive transformation: hypnotherapeutics, meditation, mindfulness, yoga, or aromatherapy. Doing a practice consisitently will get you unstuck, will get you out from under the thumb of The Long Learned Laws Of Limiting Mind. Do the practices—and you will grow into a greater being than you ever dreamed yourself to be.