The Workaday Warrior & Warrioress

 

 

 

 

You’ve heard of Weekend Warrior? Well, I’m interested in what it takes to be a Workaday Warrior.

Generally, Weekend Warrior means a person who gets into their passion, hobby, labour of love only on weekends. And, yes, some passions need a longer space to really get into. Nobody’s painting their masterpiece while entering data at the office.

Workaday means ordinary, routine, familiar; as well as diligent, disciplined, skillful.

So the Workaday Warrior may not be as visible or obvious or flamboyant as the Weekend Warrior. But the Workaday Warrior is always involved, every day, at some level, in some subtle, primal and conscious way, with their deep driving desire.

The way of the Workaday Warrior is often internal. It’s about attention and intention. It’s about inner actions, a fierce fidelity to a raison d’être. It’s about devotion to a deep driving desire, the thing of rare purpose that feeds, fires, and inspires your life.

If your passion is an activity, you may not be able to do the outer action of your passion every day: rock climbing, pot throwing, home renovations, antique rescue, abused dog rescue, yard sailing, paddling. But whatever the deep driving desire, the Workaday Warrior is almost always at it, imagining, dreaming, intending, planning.

Often the deep desire of the moment is intensely internal: the slog to rise from despair, the struggle to nurture hope, the inner job of soul recovery.

If you’re stuck in or moving through a big blow in life—an addiction, an illness, a grievous loss—your Workaday Warrior may be doing the sword dance of soul retrieval in very dark depths. Outer eyes may not see into your struggle.

In the ordeal of a lifetime, in the struggle for your sanity, in the underworld journey of self-transformation, you will face, sooner or later, the Workaday Worrier or the Workaday Woebegoner, the loathly lords and ladies of desperation and doubt. We could call these panic and despair, fretting and ruing, anxiety and depression.

Whatever you call these weights of worry and woe, they are the worthy opponents of the Workaday Warrior. And there are more. Procrastination. Pigheadedness. Avoidance. Whatever. Their modus operandi is to take down the one who’s shaping a whole new path in life through all those old cramps of conditioning.

What we focus on grows. Positive or negative, what we give story to, we give life to. A fervent focus on the more desirable life, with fierce heart and clear head, tends to grow fruit. Life grows opportunity like an oak tree grows acorns—out of its own skin and in mighty supply. A focus on the deep driving desire grows inner intention into outer actions that reap the fruits of opportunity and further the inspired life.

The Workaday Warrior clears distractions, clarifies thought, identifies values, deepens feeling, and takes belief to an all new level of joyful engagement with his deep driving desire. The Workaday Warrioress knows that a frequent fervent focus on her deep driving desire is the stuff of magic.

 

 

Vulnerability: A Wise Guide Through Tight Spaces & 4 Ways To Cultivate It

In a world of loud, quiet really wakes up the soul.

In a world of fast, slow magnifies power.

In a world of hard hitting, of slamming it, banging it, crushing it, the soft touch can slide through the tight spot with insuperable strength.

Vulnerability can be seen as the synergy of opposites such as rigid and flaccid, tight and loose, hard and soft.

Synergy is the blending of things such that the sum of effects of those blended things is greater than all effects of any one thing going about its business alone.

Vulnerability can be felt in body, heart, and mind. It’s felt as the outcome of blending opposites like rigid and flaccid, tight and loose, tough and weak in good measure such that each half of the pair of opposites tempers the mix with its finest quality.

Part body sensation, part feeling, part mental awareness, vulnerability can present from within as a scary openness at first. If you’re not comfortable with it, even the suggestion to open to your vulnerability can agitate.

Like cracks in a wall that leave you open to frigid blasts and malignant insect attacks, like cracks in communication that leak top secret intelligence, like cracks in an emotional armour that leave you open to getting hurt, vulnerability feels too undefended, too permeable.

Vulnerability might be scary because we’re not used to the soft-hard art of allowing.

In many martial arts, in the yogas, in the training of hunters and gatherers, in the long apprenticeship of a magician or medicine person, in the cultivating of a master artist, the intimate practice of vulnerability keeps the initiate open in a tight spot, ready to flow in any direction, poised for a leap or a roll, positioned for opportunity.

Vulnerability might be scary because deep in the ancestral language centres of our collective awareness we hauntingly remember that vulnerable comes from words that mean to wound, to maim, to injure, to pluck, to tear, to strike. That’s scary!

But today, vulnerability means an intimacy with body, heart, head, and soul in such a manner that you could no longer hurt yourself or others intentionally.

In The Yoga Sutras, Patanjali describes this power of yoga: When you are steadfast in your abstention of thoughts of harm towards others or yourself, all living creatures will cease to feel fear in your presence. (sutra 2:35)

That might be called vulnerability in extremis and vulnerability in extasis.

Vulnerability, then, might be described as the taming of the fear reflex and the absence of a blame and shame conditioning.

Vulnerability could be called the necessary angel, to borrow Wallace Stevens’s phrase, of empathy. Now, that’s a beautiful thing.

Invite your vulnerability to guide you and hold you. It has beauty, courage, and magic in it.

4 Actions To Invite Vulnerability:

  1. Tune in to your senses and sensations. Walk in a safe place in nature. Sit quietly, close your eyes, breathe, and practice developing eyes in the back of your head. Walk gently, sense the earth beneath your feet, and practice developing ears in the soles of your feet. Smell as if every pore of skin were a nose. Taste with your fingertips. Open to the subtlety of sensation.
  2. Acknowledge reactivity. You can develop a practice of tuning in to the tight place in the body that’s attached to a reactive trigger; then identify an emotion that goes with the trigger; then observe any meanings, ie, conclusions, perceptions, thoughts attached to that trigger.
  3. Simply sit and allow yourself to embody sensation, emotion, thought, without reaction. Just let it flow through. No judgement. No blame.
  4. Daily, track triggers, emotions, feelings, thoughts, behaviours through tight spots and tender spots. If any of those are uncomfortable, if they hurt you or someone else even in thought, write yourself into a next best perception or meaning. Write about the beautiful, helpful, good, blessed boons in your life even when going through trial. Stretch yourself. Notice something that has a deep and encouraging beauty to it in spite of any anguish or confusion. Focus there.

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A Few Ideas Toward Living The More Inspired Life

What do you need to start doing today to be living your more inspired life?

Do you need to take a break and listen to the birds or move that body or visit with friends? Do you need to focus more on a project, hobby, or passion? Do you need a fresh slant on an old idea, behaviour, attitude? Do you need to stop procrastinating and start investigating, resuscitating, reanimating your world?

One thing’s for sure: you must stop asking questions like: why does this keep happening to me? why can’t I get ahead/get moving/get inspired? Those questions plop you into the victim mentality hole.

The next thing’s for sure, too: you must rather ask: now that this {name it} is happening, and it makes me feel {name it}, what’s one small thing I can do today to shift, to lift, to move this into a better feeling or outlook or action? Knowing I feel stuck, where can I put my attention to help me get unstuck?

You might not get an answer right away. It’s ok. Keep asking the good questions, the enriching questions, the empowered questions. The questions will lead you to where you need to be for inspiration to fill you up. The questions invite the inspired life, the inspired choice, the inspired action.

And look around, in your head, in your heart, in your world. Listen. Wake up to your senses. Smell those roses. Touch that leaf. Taste that lemon, that basil, that chocolate mocha latté. Set an intention to make one sense your pathway of ritual engagement with your life today.

Notice beauty, innocence, simple acts of genuine humanity. Rub that aching knee with warmth and affection. Smile at that stranger, that child. Give a dollar to a street person. Mow a sick neighbour’s lawn.

Be kind. Be encouraging. Be grateful. Thank your modest income for being there to pay that bill. Thank your huge income for being there to serve a greater cause than ego’s illusory sense of security. Thank the wonky weather systems for reminding you to walk lightly on the Earth. Thank a cranky person for the opportunity to empathize and give hope. Thank your anxiousness for telling you to set a healthy boundary. Thank your depression for the wake up call. Thank a despot for reminding you to engage more fully in sage and savvy social change actions.

Everything comes as a result of something before and everything comes as a guide to something more. We can’t change what went before. We can acknowledge the past and imagine a better future. We can learn, use our old cramps of conditioning as guidance, and lean into what needs to happen now to make the next step more empowered, enriching, liberating. We can—however deeply tucked away that knowing is—live daily toward the more inspired life our hearts know is possible.

Beautiful Rowdy Prisoners


Knowingly or not, most of us build cages to put people and things in. Cages of judgement, cages of resentment, cages of gossip or comparison.

Often, the motivation is to keep ourselves feeling safe. The result is keeping ourselves small. The small feel safer or bigger by making the other feel smaller.

We might feel justified in building cages for others if that other is abusive, negative, or taxing in some way. Even a minor downer person at work, school, or in our friend group can nudge our inner jailer into action.

But we cage the best in others, too. Even admiration can be a cage if the admired isn’t allowed wiggle room for their life-giving flaws.

And most importantly we cage our own better halves, our unloved parts of self, including: our precious and rowdy passions, our curious creativities, our unlimiting ideas, our bigger self that lives outside the lines of collective habit. And then we conveniently forget how the cage got there or that it’s there at all, and we may blame someone or something else for our small life.

Who is this small person who builds cages of definition, limitation, judgement, prejudice? We know it today as that old bugaboo ego.

Ego is our protective self-identity. It’s the nervous system’s psychological comrade that grew out of repetitions of experience and grew into our cramp of conditioning.

The prison is in ourselves. And so is the key.

The jailer is in ourselves. And so is the liberator who drops the keys.

What are the keys this sageful self drops for the beautiful rowdy prisoners of a limiting idea of self? Praise, appreciation, encouragement, compassion; invitations to partnership, play, reverent mischief; an empathic nod, a supportive smile, an outright ooopsy daisy of chuckling truth. Anything that inspires and empowers the caged one is a liberating key.

A savvy survival sizzle is not about attacking the jailers. The Sage sidesteps that whole bamboozlement of opposition and conflict. He soft-shoes into the liberating rhythms of creative disruption that melt the cramp of conditioning. She jitterbugs through the narrowing norm with an effortless ingenuity.

But during her magnanimous rollick through the jails of conditioning, the Sage merely drops the keys. Picking up the key and stepping free is the choice we are each given as the Sage whispers to the beautiful, rowdy prisoners: Follow me.

SOME KEYS OF LIBERATING DISRUPTION

Breathe intentionally.

  • The breath is the key to what the mindfulness teachings call The Pause. The breath is intimately connected with the nervous systems. It’s one of the autonomic processes that we can take charge of to a very great advantage. Intentional breathing tones down the fight-flight-freeze stress reaction and tones up the rest-and-reflect relaxation response. The intentional breath is an essential key of liberation from internal and external conflict. The aware breath opens The Pause, the space in which we can bring a better perspective to the moment. In The Pause we can reflect and make use of other keys. In The Pause we can touch The Infinite.

Three game changing questions: Before saying, texting, blogging, posting our opinion, ask ourselves:

  • Does this inspire and empower?
  • Is this who I want to be and be seen as?
  • Does this come from my desire to be kind or my need to be right?

Share the Wealth.

  • Sharing our wealth of knowledge or know-how isn’t about telling people to do it this way, that way, my way. It’s about offering our best stuff to the need at hand. It’s about giving away our hard won treasures of deft alignment with success for the benefit of enhancing another’s success.

Replace competition with co-operation.

  • Competition comes from fears of: losing out, lack, insecurity. Co-operation, community, compassion come from the understanding that unity and equality liberate our gifts, talents, strengths as well as those of others.

Frequently spend time in Nature.

  • Open yourself to a sensory and mindful appreciation of Nature’s wildish wherewithal of wonderment.
  • Cultivate biophilia. Bio means life. Philia means love. Biophilia is a love of all lifeforms. Biophilia leads to good feeling and better health.
  • Practice shinrin yoku, which means forest bathing in Japanese. Forests, plants, and the bacteria that live on them give off phytoncides, essential oils that protect from harmful microorganisms. Walking among trees and other plants drenches us in health giving life essences. And more: In forests the negative ion emissions are high. Negative ions latch on to airborne contaminants and weigh them to the ground, liberating the air we breathe from harmful germs, pollens, allergens.

 

 

 

 

 

Belief~The Beloved Of Destiny

Belief is the beloved of destiny. Destiny opens its arms to the fervent belief. In fact, without belief, we are shackled by fate. Belief liberates destiny.

Our common definition of belief is: mental acceptance of something as true. But belief actually has little to do with rote opinion, limiting memory patterns, or cramps of conditioning in the subconscious that shrink our lives down to status quo autopilot repetitions of the same-old-same-old. Belief, at root, isn’t a mental construct.

A tortured twist of fate beginning back down deep in the annals of history in the conquest of northern Europe by southern interests wrenched belief from its root meanings and gets it to wave the small egoic flags of opinion, idea, concept, ideology, or subterranean patterns of fixed memory in the subconscious.

But belief originally means none of that.

ETYMOLOGICAL MAGIC

Scholars of wisdom, such as my wondrously witty teacher, Caroline Casey, say: before judging, always cook a thing back down to what it originally wanted to be before it got bamboozled by egoic interests.

Belief originally wants to be joy, joyfulness.

The etymology of lief—the root meaning—reminds us that it has always meant joy, love, dear, to esteem, to care, to desire. With the be- prefix functioning as an intensive before lief, belief is all about the intensification of joy.

So it turns out that belief isn’t a product of the head. It’s a function of the heart.

With a simple shift of emphasis, it sounds like an imperative sentence: Be lief. Be joy!

THE JOY FACTOR

In the perennial wisdom traditions and in our modern revivals of these ancient sciences of optimal wellbeing—such as The Law Of Attraction teachings and spiritual psychology—joy is considered the deep desire of all beings, one of the highest energy frequencies, and one of the most potent attractor agents.

The Buddha knew that all beings want to be happy. Psalm 5:11-12 suggests that joy is protection from all calamity. Rumi said that what we really want is love’s confusing joy. In Dr. David Hawkins’s measures of frequency levels of emotional states, as well as for Abraham Hicks, joy is a supercharged healer and attractor.

Joy. The deep meaning of belief. Now that’s a bold and powerful idea. That’s a greatness groove with evolutionary potential. That’s a thing that changes everything.

Belief is the simplest of things wielding the greatest of powers. So, be lief. Be joyful! Your destiny unfolds from the joy in your heart. Nothing is as powerful as a belief whose time has come.

BELIEF: The Simplest Of Things Blog Bite


Belief is the smallest of things wielding the greatest of powers. Believing you can or believing you can’t makes or breaks your greatness groove.

But your greatness groove doesn’t help you much if you don’t believe in your greatness. Belief is an inner ally to the unfolding of your greatness.

If you believe that your greatness is determined by things you think you don’t have, such as innate ability, opportunity, special talent; or by arbitrary factors like social class, economics, geography, other people, then your mind gets into loops of lack.

None of us escapes some ups and downs in life. Adversity comes spinning along as it will. But adversity can come spinning along and crush you when you doubt yourself. Adversity finds weight in a mind that twists and turns in loops of lack. And in loops of lack, the same-old-same-old keeps spinning itself into a life.

Belief in yourself liberates your greatness groove to do its good work in your life and in the world.

Belief in your greatness groove is a primary liberating ally to your deep driving desire—that thing in you that must be what it can be. Believing in the greatness of your deep driving desire or believing that you can and will discover your deep driving desire gets you thriving from its wildish ground.

A lovely adage says: You must believe it to see it. I take that to mean that belief creates the inner conditions for something to be so in the world, preparing you for its arrival. Belief sets up a resonance hub inside you, an electromagnetic pulse of possibility.

To use a garden metaphor: if you want to attract butterflies, plant the flowers that butterflies vibe with. Your greatness groove needs you to plant a bright blooming belief in your greatness.

Belief in your deep driving desire lifts you from a path of fate to a path of destiny, from the path handed to you by circumstance to the path required by your soul. And then destiny begins to unfold.

It seems that the bright belief is the beloved of destiny. And belief, at its root, means joy, gladness, and love. Yes, right in the root meaning of the word, joy is the heart of belief.

So when we say something like: destiny hangs on your belief in your greatness; we are saying destiny hangs on your joy in your greatness.

True belief is practicing joy. And joy is a resonance that brings the best into being.

 

 

The Dolorous Blow~~Revisioning Trauma

The Dolorous Blow in Arthurian legend is the wound that maims The Fisher King, leaving him and the land impotent. In the terms of Law Of Attraction metaphors, the King’s vibrational frequency plummets to an energetic low and the land follows. His kingdom becomes The Wasteland.

In myth, the king or queen can be symbolic of a governing principle in our selves; and the land a reflection of the psychic wholeness of the king or queen. In Arthurian legend, the entire kingdom depends on the King’s health, on his life force energy. In life, it’s really the same~~our world hangs on our health, on our internal vitality, on our energetic balance.

Our inner life out-pictures, to use Neville Goddard’s phrase, into our lives, shaping the world of our personal and collective reality. We are energetic beings. Our prevailing feeling state affects our energetic resonance. Our resonance governs the kinds of events attracted into our lives.

Can you see yourself as the king or queen of your inner realm? Are you hale and happy in abundant blessedness? Or are you sad, angry, sick? Is the inner marriage of your kingly spirit and your queenly soul balanced and bright? Or are you invisible to your egoic view entirely, duped by the duplicitous cheats and wormtongues of power that you are nothing?

The wounding of The Fisher King is a wounding in us all. Traumatic experiences have become epidemic. Traumatic stress wrecks the energetic balance and wracks the mind. Traumatic stress disorder becomes a crutch for some and a banner for others, a label that constricts vision and obstructs healing. The clinical pathologizing sets in, we lose the dignity in the experience, and little heals.

Trauma loops explode all around us, in tv shows, film, avatar games, on the streets, in homes. Generational repetitions compound over and over, violence consolidates violence, and the out-picturings of profound lack of vision make a wasteland of this good green luscious living Earth.

An experience so global and obvious is crying out for revisioning. Trauma is a blow to our very life force. For such a critical experience, the language of myth restores dignity to the spirit, devotion to the soul, vitality to the body, and vibrancy to the imagination. The irresisitibly attractive energy of mythic language restores our magic to us.  transforms how we see ourselves .

THE DOLOROUS BLOW IN REAL TIME

A dolorous blow in our lives can really rock our trust, hope, curiosity, playfulness, joy~~those sparkling energetic exhilarators of abundant living~~thereby clouding our perspective and damping our vibrational lustre.

Nearly drowning or being involved in a near or tragic drowning, losing a limb, developing a life threatening disease can be the incidents that Arthurian legend calls The Dolorous Blow.

Consistent sarcastic assaults to our sense of self over time or direct hits to the soft animal of the body, as Mary Oliver describes our sweet ally of carriage through this life, are dolorous blows. These blows of experience can be paralyzing, to the mind or to the body. Fear, anger, despair, physical pain take over. Fertility of resilience fails. The inner wasteland sets in.

If you have ever been depressed, cast down, despondent, in agony, you have shared in the human experience of the dolorous blow, of soul loss. These blows lay waste our inner land of psychic wholeness and become reflected in the crippling outer circumstances of our lives.

Any event that conditions our subconscious toward a fear, grief, despair, anger bias can be a dolorous blow to our wellbeing. And the word trauma can consolidate the blow. I find the liberating language of myth to be a respectful and wonderful way to revision the blows of life so that we sense a path forward, through the dark wood, out of the wasteland, and into growth potential.

LINGUA MYTHICA~THE LIBERATING LANGUAGE OF MYTH

Clinical psychology calls the dolorous blow a trauma event and its repercussions post trauma symptoms.

I have found in 60 years of my own gorgeous perilous missions, and in 20 years of clinical counselling practice, that diagnostic labels, like trauma or post traumatic stress, are helpful guiding descriptions, but can severely limit a person’s recovery. Labelling a person with post traumatic stress disorder (or bi-polar or cancer or such) is like putting a sign on the path: Fisher King’s Castle This Way. The sign may lead the heroic quester to the castle, but says nothing about next steps in healing.

People get really attached to labels. Phrases like: mental illness, terminal illness, inoperable condition, toxic people, toxic situations can become a  life sentence to a mind hung up on strict definitions. These labels can suck the life energy out of a person hunkering under the dolorous blows of life.

I much prefer the lingua mythica of the heroic journey. Lingua mythica translates roughly as the language of story or story language. A mythopoetic language liberates soul into the healing process. The Grail Cycle of stories is one such healing language.

The language of the heroic journey gives us magical allies, the animal friend, words of power, opuscules of opportunity, hope swings across impossible odds, timely meetings, divine encounters, the chance to recover a fearless awesome courage, the jewel of wisdom in the Underworld, redemption of self and community and land.

WARRIOR TRAINING

Healing trauma, healing false limits to our soul’s purpose, healing The Dolorous Blow may be one of our gorgeous perilous missions in life.

Warrior training teaches that we must take our fear, breathe it intensely into a ball of fire in the belly, govern our attention, direct our intention, and use these like an archer uses a bow: to aim the gorgeous perilous mission of the moment and propel our fearless awesome courage towards the bull’s eye of necessary action.

Spiritual Warrior training teaches that with breath regulation and meditation, we learn to embrace the body, govern thoughts, inspire the heart, hone vision, and trust action. The best springs forward of its own accord. When you do the work, the work supports you. When you do the work, the work heals you. You learn to unhook from habituated reactivity. In Arthurian terms, you cut and ride the psychological wave through danger to safe harbour. It’s a deep practice of focus and non-attachment.

ATTACHMENT

Long ago, in another place and time, my beloved painted paddlemaking teacher, who gave me such loony latinate phrases as lingua mythica, taught me much about facing my fears. He taught me that The Sacred Psychologies (his term for the perennial wisdom traditions) don’t see fear as the problem. Attachment to fear is the problem.

Our instinctual emotion is ok. Instinctual fear is ok. It serves a purpose. It tells us danger is afoot. It sends powerful chemical warriors and scintillating electromagnetic allies through our bodies, collaborators of immense energetic oomph unleashed for our instant strength.

Attachment to fear and attachment to fear based reactivity—such as panic—is the culprit. Habituated fear, habituated stress, or a habituated trauma loop, for example, is the problem. Habituation rather than instinct is the more damaging culprit. Getting unhooked from fear’s grappling irons is part of the gorgeous perilous mission.

THE GRAIL OF OUR GORGEOUS PERILOUS TIMES

Our times call for each of us to unhook from learned patterns of fear-based attachment: attachment to me, mine, more, an eye for an eye, fossil fuel use, toxic manufacturing practices, compulsive consumption, torture of any kind of all soft bodies everywhere.

Our sweet oasis in space, our Earth, is showing symptoms of The Wasteland of myth. The faulty belief system of egoic self-interest is the dolorous blow to our collective energetic good vibrations.

Our life habits live up to~~or down to~~our most consistent conditioning. Our emotional patterns and thought addictions shape our choices, actions, and vibrational frequencies. Our biosphere suffers or thrives accordingly.

This egoic self-interest that sets our species as more important than Nature’s exquisite life harmonies and our wants as more valuable than the liberty of our animal, plant, mineral, water ,and gas allies out-pictures in tragic proportions as the toxic wasteland of our times.

In The Grail Cycle of stories, finding The Holy Grail brings healing to The Dolorous Blow, The Fisher King, and the land.

The Holy Grail can be seen as a symbol for the energetic frequency of healing, harmony, and happiness. The Grail lives in the heart of The Fisher’s King’s castle.

FROM DOLOROUS BLOW TO RADIANT WOUND

Our collective mission calls upon each of us to see our own dolorous blow~~our trauma wound~~as the opportunity to seek the grail of the heart, drink the elixir of a new vision, and tell the liberating tale of a new guiding story in our lives.

The old trauma story can become the epic tale of the gorgeous perilous mission. The old trauma wound can become The Radiant Wound of radical redemption.

When we change the way we tell our story, the story we tell changes our world. As each of us unhooks our story from our cramp of conditioning, from our trauma wound, we transcend habituated fear. Every personal liberation from habituated fear raises the collective vibe.

Globally we need a new guiding story. Is this the New Dark Ages or is this the Age Of Vision? The version we choose out-pictures and becomes our world.

The fresh story begins inside each of us. And as tales like The Grail Cycle remind us, the liberating story we need must be centred in the heart.

Awakening heart energy gets us unhooked from fear and unleashes our fearless awesome courage into vibrant vibrational change practices.

Only heart medicine heals The Dolorous Blow. A change of heart changes everything. The time is now. The time is only ever NOW.

A Wild And Singular Life

Whatever the universe may do in some distant future—spin, shrink, disappear, start over—the universe, right now, is vibrantly expanding. Expansion seems to be its driving urge.

From the Big Bang, right down to the explosion of binary cell division that resolves into a complexly evolving fetus, The Universe seems intent on expanding more and more life, complexity, beauty, abundance into its vast body.

From the exquisitely patterned developmental stages of a healthy disposition, into the full throttle thrown into wish fulfillment, we are coded with an expansive desire for growth.

From crystalline structures in snowflakes, frost patterns on windows, and sparkling symmetries in rare gems buried in layers of rock, fractal iterations throughout Nature insist on unfolding and expanding our wonderment.

You are one of those unfoldingments. You are the desire of the evolutionary impetus to further itself. You are the smouldering ember of desire’s next big bang.

“Tell me,” writes Mary Oliver, “what is it you plan to do with your one, wild and precious life?”[i]

That’s a crazy sexy inspiring question. That question can set the heart on fire. It can set the mind to scanning the psychic landscape for those embers of potentiality that, when tended, burst into destiny’s living fire.

If you don’t feel any spark in you, try this exercise: take Mary Oliver’s question with you as you walk through your days and weeks.

What is it I plan to do with my one, wild and precious life?

Repeat it like a mantra, a prayer, a favourite song lyric.

Write it on binder covers, notebook margins, journal headers, doodle scraps.

Post it on cupboards and mirrors and fridge doors.

Post it on Facebook and Twitter statuses.

Let it seep in, remind you, become you. Just let it in, over and over. Then let go.

Let go of outcome agendas.

Let that question expand your mind, fill your heart, and inspire your whole being to transcend current limitations.

What you impress upon your subconscious mind over and over begins to arrange itself in patterns beyond the conscious mind’s imagining.

Let that question in. What do you plan to do with your one wild and singular life?

Let the answers flow. Become what you most singularly must become in your one wildish soul.

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[i] Oliver, Mary (1992). New and Selected Poems, ‘A Summer Day.’ Boston: Beacon Press, p. 94.

The Body Temple

An old adage says your body is a temple.

Like a temple, the body is filled with spirit.

Like a temple, the body is filled with temple bells.

Organs and glands, neurons and cells, molecules and atoms, photons and gluons; thoughts and feelings, ideas and imaginings, desires and disenchantments—these are all like big and little bells, all playing off one another.

These bells are chiming and ringing, resounding and humming, fading and rising, radiating wave upon wave of resonant harmonies or disharmonies according to your feeling tone.

Something moves you, your temple bells chime. You move, the world bells chime.

The world, the solar system, the galaxy, the universe move and the resonant bells of the whole vibrate. You are part of that whole bell choir.

In yoga teachings, spanda is the primordial vibration of all things, a version of a Big Bang. Spanda was there before anything was there. Spanda gives rise to all things.

Spanda is the soundful silence yogis hear, the moving stillness they feel in the resonant core of being. Spanda is the sacred tremor of the unstruck heart.

In the body temple all your being bells are part of the universal vibratory chorus attuned to the sacred tremor of life. Your whole being  desires to feel and express its joy in the unstruck song of the heart.

Long ago, a Japanese poet named Basho wrote this exquisite haiku:

The temple bell

Stops; but the sound

Keeps coming out of the flowers.[i]

Maya Angelou writes it like this:

People will forget what you said;

People will forget what you did;

But people will not forget how you made them feel.[ii]

Let your One Chime ring. Let your unique and singular song sing out. Let your heart be the central bell of your self-temple. Begin now ringing this bell in little and big ways.

Set a practice of quieting your mind. Bring your attention to the breath. Set your intention on one good thing and repeat that intention over and over. Notice and appreciate beauty. Walk in Nature and cultivate biophilia—the love of hanging out with other forms of life. Dance. Sing. Bless.

Every cell in your body will swell like flowers unfolding. The song in your heart will keep coming out of your marvelous cellular structure, your most ennobled thoughts, your magnanimous actions, your singular sparkle long after the ringing stops.

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[i] Basho, trans. Robert Bly (1972). Basho. San Francisco: Mudra.

[ii] Angelou, Maya in Bob Kelly (2003). Worth Repeating: More Than 5,000 Classic And Contemporary Quotes. Grand Rapids: Kregel Publications. p. 263.

That Nagging Desire

Desire is the fire that moves us to inspired action. It’s an evolutionary imperative, a creative impetus, a cultural invigorator. It’s a way home to the fullness of your being, a way through to the fulfillment of your destiny. Desire is the attractor factor that magnetizes a crazy sexy inspired life.

Desire is a current within you that eddies around one or a few central themes, or rolls over itself in vague or vociferous repetitions.

Desire is stored in the dream you keep coming back to that feels just right for your own specific, unique, inalienable path—even if you’re depressed about ever materializing that dream.

Desire opens in the book you read over and over; the idea you return to that keeps jiggling your cells; the imagined design you keep pouring out for your future house, career, beloved, adventure, world.

Desire wags in the notion, the niggling, the nagging, the inkling, the hint that keeps you engaged.

When these repetitions show up, pay attention. Something wants to come into being through you. More than that, something must come into being through you for your life to feel fulfilled. Desire is its fuel. Destiny is its result.

If these following repetitions show up, pay attention: despair, worry, frustration, worthlessness, helplessness, anger. These patterns of thought and repetitions of feeling are weighted toward lower frequency vibrations and act as blockages to your destiny fuel of desire.

When you’re cycling through loops of negative thoughts and feelings, your magnetic attractor frequency is still attracting—but attracting the stuff that blocks your desire from fulfilling itself, your life, your destiny.

It’s crucial to your exquisite existential and beautiful biospiritual being that you attend to clearing up deeply entrenched blockages.

A powerful practice of clearing blockages is meditation.

A meditation practice teaches you that you don’t have to listen to any particular thought that floats through your head; that you don’t have to follow, indulge, engage, act on, react to any particular idea or image crossing your path in the roadshow of your mind.

A meditation practice teaches you that you have a choice in what thoughts to follow. Consciously choosing, over and over, to sidestep limiting thoughts strengthens your mental muscle of chosen focus and attention, and loosens your hold on stuck memory habits—the repetitious subconscious patterns that yoga calls samskaras and that my old teacher called the cramp of conditioning.

When you consciously choose to sit with silence you begin to hear the whisper of your heart. In that whisper is the still small voice of inspiration, the song of desire, the knock of destiny.

Pay attention to what’s inside you. Listen. Clear up the blocks. Vitalize your flow.

Your desire to destiny dream path is always calling. As Farmer Hoggett quietly knew in the film, Babe, little ideas that tickle and nag and refuse to go away should be attended to, for in them lie the seeds of destiny.

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Star Power

When you are moved by a burning desire, you are moving with the stars.

I’m moved by etymologies, the root meanings in words. The roots of desire are simply lovely.

Desire means to wish for and of the stars.

Why did the original word makers hitch desire, this powerful force of movement and manifestation in the human world, to the image of the stars?

I don’t know, really. But I do know they were seers, visionaries, worldmakers. They understood the connection between language and worldmaking.

Language gives access to the worlds it speaks of. Language metabolizes spirit into substance, desire into reality. In the beginning, goes a famous creation story, there was The Word.

Words are worldmakers, little star songs, echoes of creative power. Our words and our intention in them governs increase and decrease, gain and loss, fulfillment and depletion. Words can light the way or darken it.

Stars are worldmakers, too. The physics of world making—of planet, asteroid, solar system making; of atom, molecule, body making—is the physics of star power.

The Big Bang is one theory of how the universe with its vast empty spaces, spots of light, and clumps of matter came to be.

The Big Bang theory says one initial explosion brought the formless into form. An originating, infinitesimal point of potential, the tiniest pinpoint carrying immeasurable infinite power, exploded from the void into the original dark; and together, the Holy Dark and the Mystic Light unfolded as The Universe.

Gases coalesced into stars. Stars into matter. Matter and light into great diversities of planets.

Ours is a sweet blue gem of lovingkindness floating in a vast dark splendour and giving us, and all beings with us, this great miracle of life. And it all dangles from a star.

We and our lovely blue planet, our oasis in space, are dependent on our nearest star, our sun. We are made of star stuff. We are fed by star stuff. Everything is made of star stuff.

Stars are exploding and imploding all over the multiverse all the time. Their dust, their photons, their coronal mass ejections of gasses and electromagnetic waves, their insurmountable atom power is you. The dust and photons and insurmountable atom power of the original bang is in every atom now.

We take in light, are fed by light directly from the sun and indirectly through the food we eat, the water we drink, the air we breathe. And—we give off light.

Biophotons, discovered by Alexander G. Gurvich and later proved by Fritz-Albert Popp, are the light in our cells. Our cells actually emit photons, spontaneously. The greater our health, the brighter our biophoton emissions. Ancient teachings of our Light Body have known this for maybe tens of thousands of years.

Desire is star power humanized. Desire is your worldmaking fuel.

The grand mission of the universe through you is not to make the upper 2% uber rich, richer; nor to shrink your life down to a pension plan.

The mission of truly living is to unleash desire and unfold destiny, our individual destinies and our collective and interdependent destiny of evolving consciousness on our lovely blue planet.

Hitch your desire to your nearest vision star and ride the unfoldingment of your destiny. Unleash your light.

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The Infinite Imagining Matrix

It’s said that there’s one original and originating All Stuff. It’s everywhere always.

It has been called Great Dreamer, Dream Maker, a mind stuff, a thinking substance, a cosmic soup of potentiality. It’s called Yahweh, Jehovah, Elohim, Allah, Atman, God, Brahman, Wakan Tanka, Geetcha Manitou, Apu, Tao, Wyrrd, The Force.

It’s a creative organizing field of potentiality. It’s called cosmic background radiation, Akasha, The Field, The Thing That Was There Before Anything Was There.

I like to call it an infinite imagining matrix. Out of it, whatever its name, all that we know with our senses and can see in our minds metabolizes.

The infinite imagining matrix. It’s behind, before, beyond The Big Bang. Woven into everything, all things spring from it and all things are made in it. You come from it. You are one with it. You are a magnificent imagining maven.

You have a body. A body contains cells. Cells contain molecules. Molecules contain atoms. Atoms contain electrons, protons, nuclei, quarks, quirks, bosons, mesons—an endless array of particles moving in infinite interspaces of the primary creative Now Field.

And all these infinitely small, enfolded, spiralling, multiple energy waves vibrate at incalculable speeds, both way out there beyond you and way in there within you.

All these wave particles come out of the original source wave. These wave particles are held together by fundamental forces so great and vast that neither you nor I can fathom holding that much power in our grasp and yet we are expressions and carriers of these very forces.

Then something puts it all together into seemingly infinite arrays of stuff. Some ineffable, effable, effanineffable, deep and inscrutable, singular something[i] creates endless newness out of the All Stuff. Now, that’s imagination!

You’re an expression of, a piece of, a reflection and refraction of this imaginative and imagining substrate of everything. Everything is its reflection. When you look at a blade of grass, a chicken, a friend, a star, you’re looking at yourself—you are looking at God.

My great teacher, the late and eminent Northrop Frye, wrote: The fundamental job of imagination in ordinary life…is to produce, out of the society we have to live in, a vision of the society we want to live in. [ii]

So, in ordinary life as in Infinity, imagination is the marvelous energetic matrix of world making. When we realize this; that is, when we make this fundamental force of Nature real, The Great Dreamer in us rounds up all the subatomic energetic infinitely attracting potentialities to metabolize the imagined, to make it so.

Dream big. Imagine boldly. We are each carriers of the same infinitely imaginative matrix. We are each magnificent imagining mavens. We are each a partner in worldmaking. In times of dire reverence, imagining the beautiful and acting on its behalf is the sanest

[i] Eliot, T. S (1982). Old Possum’s Book Of Practical Cats. ‘The Naming Of Cats.’ London: Faber and Faber, p. 11. I’ve borrowed this line from his delightful expression of philosophical depths.

[ii] Frye, Northrop (1963). The Educated Imagination. Toronto: Canadian Broadcasting Corp., p. 60.

Karma & Will: Dedicated Focus Brings Radiant Results

Gandhi understood will. He understood the vibrant vibratory power of an insuperable will dedicated to a higher purpose. Many of us might not call our own will power insuperable, but dedicating our focus in that direction strengthens will and extends our vibrational oomph.

Gandhi combined the great traditions of Western secular law and Eastern spiritual law in his practice of Soul Force. Soul Force is non-violent ceaseless persistence of a group will in a common liberating purpose—in partnership with the cosmic dynamo of organizing élan.

Gandhi inspired the peaceful liberation of India from British rule. The emotional magnetism of soul force was unstoppable. Ultimately, he was murdered for his devotion to non-violence and liberation.

His path wasn’t easy. His death was messy, tragic, iconic. His legacy—unshakeable. How did he sustain the mental focus and strength of devotion to hold to the course of destiny? Firstly, he knew that he had to be the change within himself that he desired for his beloved India. He had to align with the liberating force of the All Soul. So, in his daily life, he rested his mind in meditation and his heart upon The Bhagavad Gita.[i]

The Bhagavad Gita is one of the sacred Hindu and world scriptures. The title means “the song of god.” The Gita was Gandhi’s bible. It’s a gorgeous poem about karma yoga—the yoga of dedicated action—and union with The All Soul. It’s a Book of Wisdom, a Book of Power, a book of super power definitions and practices.

If this text were a book of power in a fantasy story, it would be the much thumbed, used and worn, scraggly little leather bound pocket book that a Glinda, Gandalf, Yoda, or Dumbledore might carry deep in a secret fold of a luminous skirt or roughspun cloak. But The Gita is not fantasy, though the powers it describes as available to the devoted heart and insuperable will are indeed fantastic.

The Gita describes the laws of yoga that liberate us from conditioned living to creative living, from ignorance to enlightenment, from mediocrity into majesty. It focusses much discussion on the relationship between karma and will.

In yoga, tapas is a synonym for will. Tapa means self-governing. B.K.S Iyengar describes tapas as a fervent, unwavering, disciplined devotion to practice.[ii] And that takes will power.

Literally, tapas means fire. Figuratively, it can mean austerity. Poetically, it’s the fire and focus of the awakened, liberating will. Tapas is the practice of dedicated attention and intention toward a desired path. In yoga, such dedication of willing practice leads to union with the divine esprit of limitless manifesting power.

Gandhi was determined in devotion and devoted to his determined path. Caring, committed, and co-operative in soul force, he didn’t budge, he wasn’t budged. He had an insuperable will.

While reading The Gita fed his soul, daily meditation focussed his mind and strengthened his will. Any meditation that trains your attention to focus on one thing is a primary practice to develop will power—our power of creative choice.

Ultimately, the insuperable will is surrender of ego, of the Me-centre. It’s a surrender into the limitless I AM—what I sometimes call the cosmic orchestrating élan of everything. It’s the paradox of giving and receiving: giving over everything gains everything.

A willing discipline leads to willing surrender. And surrender leads to liberation. Tapas, that animated joyful devotion to a particular practice, opens a path for your wild and singular destiny to blaze its way through your heart and into your life.

A practice of daily living fuelled by a deep driving desire, guided by dedicated will, and supported by action, may not always be easy. A disciplined devotion may not be easy at first; but dedicated focus brings radiant results.

If you want your wild and singular life magnetized by the liberating blaze of living flow between finitude and infinity, practice a willing devotion to disciplined attention. It leads to a willing surrender of ego unto trust—a trust in the vibrant vibratory source of everything. Then destiny is yours.

[i] Stephen Mitchell, (2000). The Bhagavad Gita. Bhagavad Gita. New York: Three Rivers Press.

[ii] Iyengar, B.K.S. (1996). Light On The Yoga Sutras Of Patanjali. London: Thorsons. p. 30-31.

Spinning Plate Syndrome: Anxious? Depressed? Stressed? Become A Spinning Master

Spinning plates has a critical mass point where—depending upon the spinner’s ability and other factors—spinning tips into its opposite: a crashing mess.

How many plates are you spinning right now?spinning plates 2

Emails, voicemails, text messages, Facebook, Google are plates. Work duties, home devotions, extracurriculars with kids and family and friends are plates. Clutter is a plate that slows you down, cluelessness is a plate that trips you up. Thoughts, feelings, worries, regrets are plates. Complaining is a plate that saps energy. Criticizing is a plate that alienates. Punishing is a plate that demoralizes. Praising is a plate that uplifts. Gratitude is a plate that gives. Wonderment is a plate that inspires. Forgiveness is a plate that relieves.

How many plates are you spinning? What are they? And why do you keep spinning?

Your Plate Spinning Style

Are you an overspinner–a chronic plate spinner, spinning by rote, spinning because that’s what experience taught you you must do to be acceptable and successful, spinning because you’re anxiety prone and worried about what others may think of you or worried that your world will fall if you don’t keep spinning those plates, spinning yourself silly?

Are you an underspinner, a refugee of the spinning plate wars, flat out, worn out, adrenal fatigued, disappointed, depressed, derailed?

Are you a spin doctor, denying, deflecting, obfuscating, causing confusion for others?

Are you a spin dandy, adept at getting others to spin your plates for you, making all kinds of excuses about why you can’t spin the plates yourself?

Or are you a spinning maestro or spinning maestra?

We Are Designed For Spin Mastery

 Spinning plates is an actual balancing skill. A master plate spinner can keep a lot of plates up at a time. Most of us have seen the master spinner add plate after plate to stick after stick. Most of us have seen the comically crazy outcome of the tipping point.

Spinning plates has a critical mass point where—depending upon the spinner’s ability and other factors—spinning tips into its opposite: a crashing mess.

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Our biopsychospiritual wholeness is designed to handle stress. That’s why we have such a complex nervous system, an intricate sensory network, and a complex perceptual net ranging from our senses to our heart to our head, from instinct through feeling, into imagination and thought. We live and have always lived in a dynamic world, whether 100,000 years ago or now. We can manage spinning—to a point, to that critical point.

We spin many plates daily, sometimes knowing that we’re spinning, sometimes not knowing. Knowing that you’re spinning plates is way better than not knowing how many and what plates you’re spinning and why. But choosing your plates is the most healthy and fulfilling path through the whirling confusion.

Not knowing you’re spinning so many plates has the obvious stress related results: overwhelm, overload, overreactions and underreactions, explosions and implosions.

Knowing that you’re spinning too many plates doesn’t help you to stop the spinning, but may help you manage your behaviour better.

Knowing what you’re spinning may help you to begin to stop the spinning altogether from time to time and put you on the way to becoming a master spinner—one who spins by choice.

The Results Of Over Spinning And Underspinning

Over spinning is usually the result of an anxious under current. Under spinning is the result of a depressive under current.

In either of these undercurrents, we’re being dragged along by subconscious factors embedded as beliefs from our earliest and/or most repetitious experience. We believe what we’re taught to believe, we’re programmed to do what we do. It’s all rote action and repeated result. Most of us were taught that spinning plates gets you somewhere.

When we send an excess of attention to too many places in one day, we’re using up vital resources within our magnificent cellular structure and thereby depleting vital carrying energy in our bodies, eroding vital connecting energy in our hearts, and eating up vital focus energy in our heads. By midday we can feel exhausted.spinning plates RKIN200.pvw

Where your attention flows, there your cell tissue goes.

Where your attention flows, there your cell tissue goes.

So much of our cell tissue gets used up in spinning the plates that we’ve got none left over for pleasure, for joy, for wonderment, for simplicity, for patience, for kindness, for listening.

Moreover, when we exhaust our cells, illness is the ultimate result. The illness can be physical, emotional, mental, spiritual. In some way, a collapse follows chronic and ongoing over and under spinning.

How To Stop Under Spinning And Over Spinning

1) Self Examination

To stop spinning so many plates all the time or to build the energy to spin the plates your life needs up and going, requires that you look into yourself and your circumstances. What you’ll discover is: you don’t have to spin all those plates. All those plates don’t come crashing down if you pause and look at why you do it. You have a choice.

But you don’t believe that. So, you have to tune into yourself and identify your beliefs and values and motives about your behaviours. Why do you spin so many plates? Why have you given up? What’s behind the spinning? And what’s on those plates anyway?spinng plates sponge bob washingplate

Then you have to look at your life circumstance and prioritize the spinning plates according to your real values, your most cherished relationships, your most beneficial beliefs, your most self-supportive desire.

That takes courage, honesty, and commitment. You can do all that on your own, but having an accountability partner like a coach, therapist, or best friend who’s in the know is optimal. A spin maestra is responsible for her plates. A spin maestro is accountable. Having a sounding board helps to build responsibility and accountability.

2) Going Within, Not Without

If you’re spinning too many plates and doing the anxiety number, or not spinning plates due to depression factors, then your thoughts, emotions, and behaviours are caught up in spinning the negativity in each of those.

Practices that can help you look into yourself honestly and revive your precious cellular tissue are the meditative quiet mind practices. A conscious, intentional, daily quiet mind practice will, in time and not too long a time, take you to the master spinning level.spinning plate hindi

When you go within, you will not go without. That means, of course, that when you look inside—svadhyaya in yoga, contemplation in Christian mystical practices, self-reflection in Zen, vipassana in Buddhist psychology, self-examination or self analysis in psychology—you’re not looking outside. But it also means that when you look within, you won’t go without the simple pleasure and joy and meaningfulness in life.

It means you’ll stop spinning those plates physically, that is, you won’t be running around in busy mode and running away from real connection.

It means you’ll stop spinning those plates mentally. The mind learns to quiet the more you practice simple meditative things like meditation itself or any deeply focussing practice that gets your attention on one thing. Creative passions really help focus.

It also means you’ll stop spinning emotionally and settle into a peaceful, easeful, restful, wonderful place.

spining plates lady3) Practice Praise, Wonderment, Gratitude, Forgiveness

I named these plates at the top of this blog. These qualities are makers of wellbeing and results of Spinning Mastery. In rote spinning, praise, wonderment, gratitude, forgiveness are the first plates to fall. They’re also the first plates we return to when we become a Spin Maestro or Spin Maestra. And each of us is designed for mastery. Go for it. Spin!

 

 

 

 

The Old Bugaboo Doesn’t Have To Bug You Forever (or Believe It To Achieve It)

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Have you ever wondered: why people who actively desire to make good changes in their thoughts, feelings, habits, and actions don’t succeed in the long run? why people don’t believe in themselves or in their innate capacity for deep change? why counselling doesn’t always stick? why intention or affirmation practice alone doesn’t seem to fulfill its promise of big change? why we stay stuck in the mud, caught in the fence, treading the same old pattern pathways over and over?

The answer comes down to subconscious belief and the locus of deep change. Our subconscious beliefs guide our choices and actions. The locus of change is the subconscious beliefs. A deep change practice has to reach through the mind clutter and touch the subconscious.

Thinking Isn’t Enough

Thought alone doesn’t reach deeply enough to shift an old defunct pattern. Thinking alone doesn’t cavern into the place where the old patterns live inside you.

Therapy helps. Counselling helps. Positive self-talk helps. But talk therapy and positive affirmation don’t touch the neural grooves in the brain that represent the hidden beliefs in the subconscious.

It’s those hidden beliefs in the subconscious that need to be targeted and bull’s eyed.

So what is this subconscious? And why is it so important in the process of deep transformational change?

The Subconscious

The subconscious is the whole body and all its functions and gifts, instincts and intuitions, illuminations and limitations. It’s the nervous system and neural grooves; it’s the gut, the heart, the head; it’s the deepest operating system and the lifelong companion; it’s the warehouse of daily events and storehouse of memories and memorized patterns. Our learned beliefs and habits live here. The subconscious comprises about 80-90% of us; our conscious self is pretty small in comparison.

Imagine the subconscious to be a magnificent, powerful animal of transport, like a horse. A well-trained horse who trusts its rider and its instincts blends with the movements and guiding directions of a rider who respects its horse and trusts its horse’s power.

Imagine the subconscious to be like a work ox of old, attached to the arm that turns the grinding wheel, walking round and round all day doing its work faithfully, entirely limited by harness and ingrained habit. An oxen who has always moved like this will always move like this, harnessed or not.

The subconscious is a magnificent evolutionary survival mechanism, filled with all the inherited codes of our DNA and imprinted with the learned behaviours of our lives. The deepest learned behaviours, and often the ones that hold us back the most, are the earliest ones learned. Our deep patterning, housed in our subconscious and reflected in neural pathways, unconscious beliefs, repeated thoughts and emotions and behaviours, governs most of what we do and how we behave. We like to think that our conscious waking mind is in charge. It’s usually not. The subconscious deep patterning is in charge, making our choices from learned patterns that became entrenched over the years and through repetition.

The subconscious isn’t trying to be the boss. The subconscious isn’t trying to be subversive. The subconscious isn’t trying to trip you up. It’s a loyal companion, a faithful friend, doing what it was told to do over and over and through many repetitions.

For example, most of us were taught to look both ways before crossing a road. It’s automatic. The behaviour was taught, we do it without thinking. It’s a very good pattern to have had set into us from the earliest years of our lives.

Conversely, some of us were taught that another way of thinking or believing is wrong. That teaching gets in deep, too. And we react to that foreign way as if it were actually wrong and not just a different way.

Learned Belief

Three core beliefs—deeply entrenched neural patterns that represent deeply held convictions—are: hopelessness, helplessness, and worthlessness. And most of us got stuck with some dose of at least one of these, and some of us got dosed more heavily in one or more of those self-beliefs. We subsequently live without believing in our abilities, dreams, selves.

We learn to believe what we were taught. The belief gets set into the neural structure which means that our entire psycho-social-physical-spiritual self is governed by beliefs we may not even know we have. You can’t see a belief. But you can experience its results.

How often have you looked at your reactions and behaviours and choices that trip you up; acknowledge they’re not healthy or helpful; but feel powerless to change them? No amount of thinking about them helps. Positive thinking helps a bit. Talk therapy helps a bit. But mostly, the old bugaboo keeps bugging you.

The Way Out

But the old bugaboo doesn’t have to keep bugging you.

The old sacred wisdom and the new scientific understanding about the subconscious, the neural patternings, the power of core belief, and the way out of the cul de sac of I-Can’t-Change now align. There is a way out of the dark psychological alley. The old psychologies provided tools and techniques to get free. The new scientific psychologies have found that these old sacred psychologies work.

Hypnosis, deep meditation, visualization toward a specific target goal, or behaviour, or change all work to change the deeply entrenched faulty beliefs that hold us back. In the yoga psychologies, these old neural grooves are called samskaras. In neuroscience: neural patterns. In psychology: subconscious core beliefs. Whatever the language or tradition, hypnosis, deep meditation, and visualization targeted toward a specific goal work to manifest that change in your deep neural structures and therefore in your beliefs, thoughts, emotions, choices, actions.

An old adage says: You must believe it to achieve it.

Old beliefs that hold you back can be changed. The old bugaboos don’t have to bug you forever. Try these therapeutic techniques: hypnosis, meditation, visualization. Target an old belief and become a new you.

Contact me for information on a 6 session engagement to repattern the old stuck neural grooves and install that new, shining belief. Believe It To Achieve It

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Will Serves Balance, Balance Is Power

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Will serves balance. Balance is power.

Any significant change in the good direction needs the support of your will. Does that sound scary? How many times have you said you have no willpower? How often do you hear others bemoan their lack of that big ingredient in the optimal change recipes: willpower? Well, let me tell you: you have all the will power you need. You just have to engage it and exercise it. And ahhh ha. There’s the rub, right?

What I mean by will or will power is not the common notion of a gruelling grit that hunkers down, muscles up, locks the jaw, girds the loins, secures the perimeters, and sets to with a stiff upper lip.

I don’t mean lashing yourself to the mast of masochism to quit smoking, do the housework, do the homework, do the yardwork, scoop the poop, get up, get fit, get off X-Box, get off Facebook, get off Netflix, get off binge watching, get off binge eating, get off oxy, get off meth, get off drunk fighting, get off mean texting, get off complaining, even though these actions are beneficial and involve self-control and self-discipline.

Will power isn’t the act of yanking yourself to do any or all of the things that are good for you that you’d rather not be doing but which you feel compelled to do by some outward force like The Laws Of Society. And will power isn’t the act of fighting the inward impression left by The Laws, the impressions which have become The Long Learned Laws Of Self-Limiting Mind—those locked-in subconscious belief paradigms that stake us to compulsive repetitions of self loathing or self effacement or self aggrandizement, mystifying in their autonomy and stupefying in their self-sabotaging economy.

I don’t mean a whip master will, like a military mandate in the mind, the coercive, the ironshod, the pushy, the punitive; nor the shackling of any good and healthy faculty of creativity or wellbeing to a shaming or blaming or gaming directive. I don’t mean force. In fact, studies are discovering that willpower decreases as force increases. And force only consolidates the The Long Learned Laws Of Self-Limiting Mind.

By will power I mean an ability to direct the attention where you want it to go, to notice when it wanders, and to bring the attention back to your focus of choice.

By willing your attention to go where you want it to go and in willing your attention to return to your chosen focus when you notice your attention has wandered, you’re learning the illimitable skill of awareness, you’re strengthening your innate faculty of choice, you’re honing perception, you’re fine tuning equanimity, you’re giving yourself the golden scales of right balance. You’re exercising your Amazing Super Power of Will. Will is one of the significant skills in effecting positive transformation. Will grows strong through exercising it, through creating a willingness to exercise it, and through sane and sensible practices of reflection and restoration, attention and intention, motivation and inspiration, that support you in your desired direction toward destiny.

At LivingFlow Integrative Essentials, I use and teach therapeutic interventions, partnered with a cognitive behavioural and appreciative enquiry approach of what’s holding you back, that support positive transformation: hypnotherapeutics, meditation, mindfulness, yoga, or aromatherapy. Doing a practice consisitently will get you unstuck, will get you out from under the thumb of The Long Learned Laws Of Limiting Mind. Do the practices—and you will grow into a greater being than you ever dreamed yourself to be.

Meditation

Meditation cleanses the mind and opens the heart. Meditating daily enhances the immune system, emotional balance, mental clarity, sleep rhythms, hopefulness. Meditating teaches us to detach from negative thought flows. Meditation enhances so much. Meditation connects us with The Infinite. Contact me for information on how meditating and building meditation into your counselling process can work, especially possibly with your benefits.

Spiritual Growth Coaching & Counselling

Are you looking for deeper meaning? Do you want to expand your awareness and raise your energetic frequency? Are you concerned for the collective consciousness of our world and hoping to be part of the change for greater peace, understanding, joy, and playfulness? I would love hear from you and be a part of that self growth with you.

Psychological Counselling

I’ve been helping people find their way through stress and anguish for 20 years. I’m a Masters level counsellor devoted your wellbeing and the wellbeing of our Earth. Every drop of sane reverent rapport with all things helps all of us. Contact me to see how your benefits might help with your counselling process. Any of the other modalities I use may always be used as therapeutic tools in your recovery to wellbeing.

A New Year, A New You: Hypnosis, Meditation, Creative Visualization for Deep Change

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Whoever you are, you’ve most likely made New Year’s Resolutions before, and wrestled with the acts of fulfilling them; and you’ve probably had some success with fulfilling them—for a time.

Whoever you are, you’ve probably known the plop of defeat, the weight of guilt, the sting of shame, and the bite behind as the old habit sneaks back in and sets to holding your goals and dreams hostage, holding your health or relationships for ransom.

You may have made deals and bets and vows and promises, with yourself, your spouse, your friend, your god, your devil, your soul.

You may have put out a lot of money at a gym, or on a diet product, or on a new age transformational healing programme, and been sold on the idea of a quick fix.

You may have got wise to the gimmicks and elixirs and exhaustions of the quick fix, and just hunkered down, girded your loins, and dug in for the long haul, making yourself and everyone else around you miserable as you stuck to your vow and browbeat positive change into your old habit.

Some of you may have given up trying by now.

It’s not that any personal growth intervention or a combination of them don’t or can’t work. It’s that we fall into other old habits that are different and deeper than the habit we want to change, and that in fact support the habit we want to change. We fall into our subtle sure-fail practices. We lose interest, lose energy, lose patience, lose faith. We slip up once and beat ourselves down. We begin on a high, but don’t prepare for the low. We get stuck in either/or splits. We forget how it is to walk in the mud with boots too big. We insist on a sprint toward success. We delude ourselves into believing that anyone who has succeeded must have some special magic in their footfall, and that we ourselves do not.

It’s also because we haven’t been taught the key state of mind and heart essential to stimulate and consolidate the deepest change for the better.

The best working recipe that I know for stopping an old habit and creating a new one includes tried and true practices of truly ancient origin, modified for our times, but still totally rooted in our nervous system, coded into our DNA, and directed at real change.

These key tools are: quiet mind, good intention, repetition, and commitment (or devotion).

And the practices that teach these tools and use these tools to effect transformational change are old practices that go by names like: meditation, hypnosis, creative visualization, prayer.

We’re designed to change. We’ve evolved through change and with change as individuals and as a species. We are adaptable, teachable, flexible. These meditative practices when done repeatedly, in quiet mind, and with an attitude of lovingkindness toward one’s self, work with the subconscious itself.

The subconscious is almost our entire being and it’s the storehouse of everything we are and have been. Much of it was born with us. And a lot of it got taught into us by the examples and practices of everyone and everything in our lives. The practices I’ve mentioned actually reach into the neural structure of the brain and repattern the neural grooves that represent a particular subconscious bias or pattern or belief.

The subconscious is deeply suggestible. The brain is remarkably fluid. We can change old habits by reaching in and changing the old belief biases that neuroscience sees as particular neural patterns. And these ancient healing practices are the practices that work toward changing the set neural structures, that is, the primary subconscious beliefs that hold that neural structure in place.

Whoever you are, you can always begin again. Ours is not a caravan of despair, as Rumi says. Most of us have broken a vow. We are each only ever beginning again, every day, every breath, every moment.